Stigmas Around using Lube
When I first started having sex, I didn’t really use lube. Now that I think about it, this was probably due to a combination of two things. Firstly, I was too young and embarrassed to face going into the shops and buying some in front of everyone. Secondly, I had this expectation that I would be turned on enough to not need it in the first place. Consequently, my first times were extremely painful, and I can only imagine that lube would have made the experience somewhat more easy-going. This I know now, as I often use lube to have more comfortable sex,
Growing up, I definitely felt at times that it was my responsibility to provide the natural lubrication in my sexual encounters, and it was my partners responsibility to make that happen. However, there were many instances where the foreplay, or lack thereof, was disappointing and meant I definitely was not sufficiently turned on. There were instances of saliva being used, and saliva is NOT a good lubricant. It may feel better at first but ultimately is drying and can lead to more friction. I felt a pang of guilt whenever I wasn’t ‘wet enough’, as if I had failed on my side of the unspoken agreement. It also felt at times that lube would almost be an insult to my sexual partner, as if it was him failing, and I didn’t want him to feel like a failure. I think lots of girls can feel like this at times, a worry that their partner will feel insulted by the use of lube. All these thoughts and feelings feed into the myth that if we are turned on, we don’t need lube, which is NOT the case!
There are many instances when no matter how turned on you are, you still need extra lubrication. A woman’s natural lubrication fluctuates throughout her cycle, and lubrication is not the only indicator of arousal! After I started to become more empowered sexually and discovered the wonders of lube, I never looked back.
My favourite lubes come from the Durex Naturals line, which you can shop online at https://www.durex.co.uk/collections/sp-natural-lubes. They’re pH friendly, water based, and are made from 100% Natural Ingredients. No fragrance or colouring. It’s a 100% yes from me!!
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There are SO many instances in which using lube can help enhance your sex life, many of which don’t even involve penetration, so here are a few:
Use it while you masturbate.
Even solo sex can be improved with lube, just apply a drop of lube to your finger before touching yourself for a smoother feel.
2. Use it while you masturbate with toys
All vibrators and toys definitely feel better with a little extra lubrication. Apply some lube to your toy before you get started. A quick note: if your toy is made of silicone, definitely use a water-based lube as silicone-based lubes can deteriorate soft rubber.
3. Use it for anal play
Lube is pretty much mandatory for any kind of anal play or penetration to avoid serious pain or tearing.
4. Incorporate it into all hand work
By that I mean hand jobs and fingering. A helping of lube makes things feel a lot better, there is nothing fun about dry hands going into your pants when you’re not wet.
5. Use it during oral
You may experience dry mouth, and lube can definitely help. If you’re using dental dams, lube can really make it more pleasurable for the receiver. And using flavoured lube might make things more interesting for the giver.
6. Use it during vaginal intercourse
This is an obvious one, but there are many ways to lube up during sex. You can apply it to a condom, to your body or their body. Start with a coin size amount and then go from there.
7. Use it for a massage
Lube can act as a great massage base, so get stuck in.
8.Use it inside the condom
Sometimes men talk about condoms diminishing the sensations. Adding a small amount of lube onto the tip of the penis before putting on the condom can help address this.
9. Use it to amp up orgasms for men
During sex with a male partner, dab a few drops on his perineum (the spot between his scrotum and anus) and tap your finger there just before he orgasms. Lube can also help add increased pleasure when stroked over his testicles.
Stay safe and comfortable ladies while having the time of your lives.
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